Kiss and tell: When does your personal life threaten your career?

feature-office-relationships-200aWhere does our professional life end and our personal life begin? For the chief of the CIA, David Petraeus, the answer is clear. He has just handed in his badge after the FBI uncovered his affair with his biographer, Paula Broadwell.

Surprisingly often, workplace lawyer Andrew Douglas is ushered into a room quietly, usually by a CEO or the chair of the board, to discuss a delicate issue: a senior leader whose love life is, in one way or another, a threat to the company.

There are no rules, officially at least, that prohibit relationships between colleagues, or even extramarital affairs. In fact, 38% of people admit to having dated someone at the office, and at least a third of marriages start in the workplace, according to a 2011 survey by American job site, CareerBuilder.com.

What’s the problem?

“When I am called in,” says Douglas, “it is because those involved are highly-productive, very skilled and important people. The leadership understands that it is the intensity of the work; they simply fell into each other’s arms.”

Leaders can be on either side of the fence; they are either dealing with a report whose private life is impinging on work, or finding themselves mixing business and pleasure, and not knowing what to do about it.

Conflicts of interest

Even when there is nothing illicit about a relationship, it can cause problems.

Is there anything wrong, for example, with a liaison between a Qantas corporate public relations executive, Olivia Wirth, and union leader Paul Howes, the national secretary of the Australian Workers Union?

There’s not a moral issue – both are unencumbered – but an engineering union reportedly sees it as a conflict of interest. The general manager of Australian Licenced Aircraft Engineers Association, Peter Somerville, told The Australian last week that Qantas and the AWU were fighting on the same side against his union over restructuring of jobs. “Even though we don’t have any evidence to support a claim that that’s got anything to do with the relationship …, let’s just say it’s not a good look.”

Judgment

In the case of Petraeus, the secrecy of the affair might have made him a security risk, but Douglas says it also called into question his judgment. “A person who can’t be trusted with his own sexual proprietary can’t be trusted with secrets,” he says. “And he is in an environment [the USA] that is prudish about that sort of thing.”

Brand damage

Everyone understands the need for their behaviour at work to be consistent with the brand of the company they work for. A brand policy, once a document that pertained to the use of logos and corporate colours, is now a broader document in which corporate “values” are enshrined.

“Nearly all brands have integrity as part of their brand policy,” says Douglas. “When a relationship undermines brand relevance there will be serious discussions.”

Breach of trust

The biggest area of personal risk in office relationships is breaching trust. “When we do equal-opportunity training, we explain there is no doubt that you must not breach trust relationships,” says Douglas.

Breaching trust can end in a sexual harassment case, even if the invitation is politely offered. “If I am 54, married with kids, and I ask a young 23-year-old grad out, that is absolutely forbidden,” says Douglas. This is because the power imbalance is so extreme, that the younger party cannot reasonably be expected to make an autonomous decision.

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